Marie-Paule de Valdivia
MBA, LCSWm, CPFC
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Marie-Paule de Valdivia, MBA, LCSW, CPFC
Founder, Program Director
My experience is unique and multi-faceted. I am the relative of a family member who manages her BPD symptoms and with whom I enjoy a loving relationship.As part of my MSW curriculum, I trained extensively in the DBT program of Yale New Haven Psychiatric Hospital. I have worked extensively with family members via phone or Skype; as well as in-person with clients who suffer from the symptoms of BPD and their families.
I have volunteered on the board of the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder for 10 years, believing passionately in that mission and developing the Family Connections program in the US and around the world, as well as teaching it at home and overseas to hundreds of families and colleagues.
I am frequently invited to speak on the topic of families’ experience and treatment at conferences in the US and worldwide.
When our child’s illness became evident a decade ago, we, her family, were very much overwhelmed and had no sense of where to turn. Despite the fact that they had been in intensive therapy; for about a year we floundered about, while their life which had been full of promise came to an abrupt stop, filled as it was with impulsive and dangerous behaviors. Yet no one brought up with us the diagnosis of BPD. And when they turned 18, of course no one discussed anything with us at all anymore. It is only when I discovered the description of BPD symptoms on the website of a well known psychiatric hospital, that all became clear.
Our child went into treatment. We took the NEABPD Family Connections class. Things improved vastly, both at home and for them. There were bumps in the road, but the progress was marked.
I started teaching Family Connections, I could see the profound effect on families and loved it. So I went back to school and earned an MSW. I was given the extraordinary opportunity to complete my second year practicum in the DBT program of the Yale-New Haven Psychiatric Hospital. This gave me a well-rounded view of BPD, from a parent’s as well as from a clinician’s perspective.
I have helped patients and continue to do so; I have been helping families for many years; and perhaps most importantly, our family is solid and our adult child has a kind of hope and a life journey we could not have imagined.
My DBT Experience
Founder & Therapist
Families On The Line
Assistant Clinical Professor of Social Work in Psychiatry (2015-present)
Yale University, School of Medicine
Along with supervising doctoral students in psychology, I also co-directed the Annual Yale –NEABPD conference from 2015 to 2019 and directed its first virtual-live iteration in 2021.
Yale-New Haven Psychiatric Intensive Outpatient Hospital
During my tenure at YNHH, I delivered group and DBT therapy to adults, adolescents and their families. During a part of that time I also co-directed the DBT program of the Yale New Haven Psychiatric Day Hospital.
Board member and (c) Family Connections Leader (2009-2018)
Executive Vice President (2017-2018)
National Education Alliance for Borderline Personalitydisorder
As part of this all-volunteer organization, I helped grow the Family Connections program from serving a few hundred families annually to serving thousands of families in over 20 countries. I facilitated classes for about 400 families; and trained class leaders internationally. I chaired the Family Connections committee on the board from its inception and for 7 years.
Francesca Penner, PhD
Francesca’s primary area of work is with adolescents who are experiencing depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, difficulties related to trauma and grief, or emotion dysregulation. She also enjoys working with children, adults, and parents.
Francesca received her PhD in Clinical Psychology, with a focus on youth and families, from University of Houston and completed her clinical internship at University of Mississippi Medical Center. Francesca’s clinical training has included both cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) approaches. She has been trained at Texas Children’s Hospital Trauma and Grief Center, the DBT Center of Houston, the University of Houston Adolescent Diagnosis Assessment Prevention and Treatment Center, and the child psychiatric inpatient unit, pediatric psychology service, outpatient neuropsychology service, Center for the Advancement of Youth, and Center for Gender and Sexual Minority Health TEAM Clinic at University of Mississippi Medical Center.
Francesca completed Behavioral Tech’s DBT Foundational training and a yearlong placement at DBT Center of Houston before starting as a DBT clinician at Families on the Line in 2022. She is currently working towards licensure as a clinical psychologist. Francesca is also a research postdoctoral fellow at Yale Child Study Center and has published several peer-reviewed manuscripts focused on adolescent and caregiver mental health and parent-child relationships.
Alli Kalpakci, PhD
Alli has expertise in working with individuals who experience intense emotions that often lead to problems in interpersonal relationships, risky or impulsive behaviors, self-harm and suicide, and intense self-criticism and hopelessness. Alli has a compassionate and non-judgmental style and is committed to genuinely and radically accepting her clients in order to help them experience real and measurable changes in their life. She also has a particular interest and passion in working with siblings of those who struggle with mental illness, which is a group that has received little attention in both the clinical and research worlds. Finally, Alli offers consultation and supervision to therapists-in-training, with an eye for case conceptualization and treatment planning within a safe, warm, and non-judgmental supervisory space.
Alli received her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at the University of Houston and completed pre- and post-doctoral fellowships at Yale University School of Medicine, specializing in using Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) in her work with adults and adolescents with borderline personality disorder and their families. Her relevant clinical training includes intensive fellowships at Yale New Haven Hospital Intensive Outpatient DBT Program, The Menninger Clinic, The DBT Center of Houston, the Adolescent Diagnosis Assessment Prevention Treatment Center, and the West Haven VA Outpatient Addiction and Recovery Services program. Alli also has an extensive research background and is a published author in peer-reviewed journals and books on borderline personality disorder, social cognition, emotional sensitivity, and the development of personality disorders.
In addition to DBT, Alli is trained in evidence-based interventions for obsessive compulsive disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, and a range of anxiety disorders. She is licensed in both Connecticut and New York.
Heidi Sormaz, PhD, E-RYT
Heidi is a PhD in Cognitive Psychology and an E-RYT. She has an expertise in attention, mindfulness, and body-based stress and distress management skills.
Heidi received her PhD and MS in Psychology from Yale. She has taught at Yale University, San Francisco State University, and Albertus Magnus College. She is currently working toward her license in Clinical Psychology. She is an expert on the influence of arousal and attention on performance and how anxiety affects thinking, stress management and performance in pressure situations. She has been an educator, speaker, and trainer with over 20 years of experience in designing and leading seminars on stress management, mindfulness, and educator training. HDR Press published her book Performing Under Pressure, and Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine published her article Meditation can Reduce Habitual Responding.
Heidi is the director and owner of Fresh Yoga in New Haven. She has studied yoga and meditation for 25 years and taught for 20. Heidi travels nationally to teach, has taught often at Kripalu in MA and the Esalen Institute in CA. Heidi has been featured in Yoga Journal and was selected by The Great Courses to design their first course on yoga; Yoga for a Healthy Mind and Body, Audible.com released her How to Live a Yogic Lifestyle and in early 2022, The Great Courses will be releasing her course on ending “overthinking” (worry, rumination, and cognitive distortion).